Saturday, July 7, 2012

what matters?

read an article lately on the newyork times that really resonated with me.


Almost everyone I know is busy. They feel anxious and guilty when they aren’t either working or doing something to promote their work. They schedule in time with friends the way students with 4.0 G.P.A.’s  make sure to sign up for community service because it looks good on their college applications.

It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.

Busyness serves as a kind of existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness; obviously your life cannot possibly be silly or trivial or meaningless if you are so busy, completely booked, in demand every hour of the day.

It’s hard to find anything to say about life without immersing yourself in the world, but it’s also just about impossible to figure out what it might be, or how best to say it, without getting the hell out of it again.

Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice; it is as indispensable to the brain as vitamin D is to the body, and deprived of it we suffer a mental affliction as disfiguring as rickets. The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration — it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done.

I’ve always understood that the best investment of my limited time on earth was to spend it with people I love. I suppose it’s possible I’ll lie on my deathbed regretting that I didn’t work harder and say everything I had to say, but I think what I’ll really wish is that I could have one more beer with Chris, another long talk with Megan, one last good hard laugh with Boyd. 

Life is too short to be busy.

as long as i can remember, i've always been an advocate of
"work, at the end of it all, is just work". 
at the end of my life i'd like to remember the relationships i've forged, the places i've been to, the memories i've made with every single person that mattered, rather than my experiences at work.
just in case i've misled you - i do love my job. even though sometimes its awfully repetitive and much more menial than you can ever imagine. but work is not the whole world to me. at least, i try hard not to let it be.

yes, work gives satisfaction. it drives you, makes you think, lets you strive harder, makes you a better worker, a better colleague, a better person; but in the (sometimes) mindless quest of climbing the corporate ladder, working to pursue material wants, striving for recognition, just immersing in the daily grind and acting like you actually enjoy it like everyone else, you unconsciously neglect your family, friends, and yourself -
and you forget what it is like to live.

how many of us, when asked "how's life?", say "im sooo busy!"
welllll, i'm guilty of that. i usually say "same old, busy with work, the likes..." even when im actually busy because i fill my own calendar with activities so i don't feel like im wasting my life away.

i go to the gym because its the only productive thing to do after work.
i spend hours on end at home surfing sites to keep myself updated; to get inspired for work.
i only read fashion magazines nowadays because novels are no longer seen as useful to me.
i carry my laptop on offdays when the boy has his martial arts classes so i can work on work.
in short, everything i do should have a point. else, what for?

i can't recall the last time i did things just for the heck of it; not because i had to, i needed to, it was practical, it produces results.
can't remember the last time i actually watched a drama from the first episode to the last.
(well, actually i have not sat in front of the telly for more than an hour for years now)
can't remember the last time i went to the beach just to feel sand on my feet and listen to the lapping waves.
can't remember the last time i did nothing because i wanted to not do anything.

wake-up call: time to learn how to be idle and NOT be guilt-tripped by it.

now now, on to lighter things.

pics of the week - 
korean food and ktv with the BKK gang.

tried to make a smiley face on my pork belly but failed. terribly.

so i paid tribute to my zodiac sign instead. moo.

fooling around with the blazers in partyworld and taking #likeaboss pictures, hahaha.

random outfits, and other things.

kept this duotone maxi in black and wine, launching this weekend!

new studded bag, yumyums. 

and additions to my swag team at @druggedreams

anyone's interested in these neon necklaces?!

we got a couple but they got snapped up by friends so we weren't able to launch.
holler if you wish for us to bring it in alright! :)

going wakeboarding tomorrow - here's to the start of doing mindless things and feeling the pleasure of idleness!
am seriously hoping the board doesn't hit my head and i don't slip into a coma thereafter.

have a happy weekend y'all.
don't forget to idle!



Anonymous said...

oh yes the pink neon necklace is so pretty!! in fact, would love to have both!!! :)

Anonymous said...

may i know from where did you buy the white colored watch? :)

missypixie said...

anon1: we heard you! :)

anon2: the watch is my mum's - she got it a longggg time ago!

Anonymous said...

both neon necklaces!

missypixie said...

anon3: ok! :D

Anonymous said...

Love the maxi! How long is it? Think it'd fit me? I'm 1.69m and most maxis are wayyy to short for me!

Anonymous said...

Hi! Where did you get the denim jumper from? Thanks (:

Rachel said...

Hey Sharon, I loved what your reflections on busyness. Yeah I think it's something everyone should come to realise and see that at the end of the day, success and wealth doesn't equate to how meaningful your life has been. Chasing after material goods is just like chasing the wind.

Pity all the above comments seem to be more interested in your outfits and the neon necklace than the real gem of this post. But nice outfit anyways! (:

Anonymous said...

where did you buy your jeans jumpsuit from?

Anonymous said...

hey! would like to ask if the offsie tee launching tmr, can i wear it the non-offsie way too?

missypixie said...

dolus: the maxi is about 52" long! Think it should fall just above your ankles perhaps? Gotta gauge with your usual maxi lengths! :)

anon4: its from forever21!

rachel: finally, someone on the same page :') thank you for your kind comments - hope you will learn how to live life and enjoy it for what its worth too!

missypixie said...

anon5: its from forever21!

anon6: yes you should be able to! width of the neckline is 19" - you can use this measurement to gauge :)

Anonymous said...

Hi Sharon! How much will the maxi be priced at? :)

missypixie said...

anon7: 29 dollars excluding postage :)

Anonymous said...

Hey Sharon, was it you who mentioned Decleor Ultra Soothing Cream as part of your skincare regime? Haha. May I ask will the cream leave a sticky residue after application? Is it really good? Thks for sharing in advance dear!

Anonymous said...

Hi, sorry for the weird and random question, but may I know what blusher (color code if possible too) is your model wearing on this week's collection's cover pic? It's really nice!

missypixie said...

anon8: yup i do use that! the cream isnt sticky and has a refreshing floral doesnt leave a sticky residue either and is quite easily absorbed into my skin :) as for effectiveness i feel that it helps to curb my skin flares a little (am prone to redness as my skin is sensitive) but it doesnt fully ease it. hope this helps!

Anonymous said...

Hello Sharon! Totally love your post on 'busyness'! It's really inspiring & I'm starting to make myself idle & not allow work to get into me! Heehee. THANK YOU!

camerafilmroll said...

Really agree with the article and your comments about it!!! (:

missypixie said...

anon9: glad to know that! ;)

becks: yes! always remember that there's more than life to just work, no matter how enjoyable work can be :D

Anonymous said...

even if the board hits your head and you slip into a coma thereafter, i'll be there to nurse you back to good health. Life is too short to be busy. Friends come and go. Old and new ones. The ones who matter, are the ones who stay through and through.


Anonymous said...

hi babe, whr do you get your phone's casings? (:

missypixie said...

bambi: you know i have your back too :')

anon10: i got one of the casings from hongkong and the other is a gift from a dear friend :)

missypixie said...

to the anon asking questions on becks blusher: i think its from maybelline but not sure what shade! in any case the photo was color-treated so it might not look the same in real life! :)